Valid points. Perhaps instead of relying on semantics, the first person to say "Rutabaga" should get it.JerryVan wrote:If we can all agree that the keywords, "Sold" & "Interested" each give the writer an EQUAL "First right of refusal", then there should be no debate. Thinking that "interested" has less power than "sold" is a fallacy. Many "sold" items had their deals fall through for various reasons, so "sold" is really no more concrete than "interested". A person who writes "sold" is definitely "interested". Until money changes hands, that person is just that: "interested".
Maybe the word "polite" needs to be uttered as well?

I'm at a loss as to what to do here. I'm not sure I understand the need for anonymity. If you were at an auction, everyone would see your paddle in the air. What's the difference? I agree that it is up to the seller to process the prospective buyer list honestly, but I wouldn't expect the seller to wait days to hear back from a potential buyer before moving onto the next. I sell things myself, and hate waiting days for someone to tell me "never mind". There will always need to be a degree of discretion on the sellers part, but how do we determine if the person who asks if if something was refinished versus the person who said "sold" gets first chance to complete the sale without some sort of guidelines?